Super Charge Your Joy With Healing Inner Child Work... Keeping it real!

This Morning I went for a walk. It was a beautiful morning and I had just enjoyed a hot cup of Turmeric, Lemon & Honey Tea. I was pondering how I would be writing a post for the blog today.I was struggling with some self doubt, and painful childhood memories. They come on me suddenly you know, without warning. often times prompted near holidays. I'm sure Valentines Day triggered it this time. I asked myself. " What could I share that would be real, honest, and helpful? What Purpose Work have I done in my life on my journey that could help bring Joy into other peoples lives?" With these questions whirling around my cranium, I slipped in my earbuds and started listening to my morning meditation for healing the inner child. The words soothed my soul. The comfort of reprogramming negative messages from my childhood brought sweet relief.

 Today as the meditation gently flowed into my ears, The words spoke of healing my wounded self. Just then like dew from heaven, a sign that God knew my pain, and was aware of me. I came upon a little wounded woodpecker, just lying on the sidewalk injured. I gently picked him up and held him close. I could feel him shiver with fear. I walked home slowly cuddling the creature as my meditation continued in my earphones
 " You can be whole, you can be healed, you don't have to be wounded anymore." I knew God was letting me know the little bird would be OK and so would I.

  I have to be very focused and work very diligently on healing scars from living in a home where I had an alcoholic and drug addicted mother. It is the deep, dark, secret you know you should hide, but feel like it will break you if you don't reveal it from the housetops." I am an Adult child of an Alcoholic", and that, my friends, changes everything. One of the reasons my perspective was fogged over with grey colored lenses, why I see the world so negatively, is that I lived in a very destructive environment. I was not validated, I was shamed, neglected, and abused. I don't say these things to bring any condemnation down on my parents. I love them and honor that they did the best they knew  how with what they knew. I only reveal these facts to help anyone else who carries this dark secret to feel like it's OK to be honest. It is OK to be real.

 I have to work very hard now, to heal and connect with my real feelings. Feelings were not allowed in my home. Except the rage and narcissism my mother could exhibit of coarse. It was truly all about her and like generational damage, passed down like DNA, sometimes it's all about me now. Oh, how I fear becoming my Mother, and yet I am my Mother's daughter. It's wrenching pain. Now in consequence, I struggle with relationships. I am afraid of abandonment. I avoid emotional intimacy, I want friendship but push it away. I want love but feel I don't deserve it. I want to be a good parent, but I don't always know how. Who taught me? Where was my example? Why are all my feelings so conflicted?

 So in an effort not to be too gloomy, ( This Blog is about designing a Joyful Life, remember?) I just wanted to make it real...and help others understand where I am coming from. In order for the Journey into Joy to happen, the healing of the inner child must come first. If you have childhood wounds maybe some of the tools I have used will help you. I use guided meditations where I feel the love I never had before, wash over me and heal. I walk, pray, and read my scriptures. If God loves me who can abandon me or hurt me or make me afraid? I am a Member of The Church of Jesus Christ of latter Day Saints, which has given me an eternal hope, I go to  support groups, it helps too. I am grateful for learning that it is okay to take care of myself, and do nice things for myself. I like to garden, color, listen to music, write, Blog, learn photography, take bubble baths, practice French phrases, light candles and take time for myself when I need it. I learned to say "No" when something is too much commitment for me, when I am struggling. I don't beat myself up for it, or feel guilty about it.  My Father-in-Heaven loves me, He knows my story, He grants me mercy and healing. I didn't always  believe or do these things. When I discovered them, I was able to live a richer, fuller life. I was able to super charge my Joy! I am still healing, I know I will feel whole again someday. It takes time. I know I can make amends to my children for any lack that I had as a result of my ignorance or deprivation. Now that I feel I have been totally broken, I know how it feels to hit the bottom floor. It's all up from there. Now is time for restoration.It's time for self love, and it is powerful.

On an end note: I had Lily and my husband take the bird to the animal shelter, they will nurse him back to wholeness. And I my friends, like the wounded bird, will heal, and thrive, and grow, and love, and finally have a fullness of Joy. I know it's a risk to be this vulnerable, yet it's healing for me. I am just keeping it real, so you can too.

  The Joyful Life

 Designer

  Life Coach 

   Tiffany King 

     TheEmpoweringGift@gmail.com   

Here is a link to one meditation that helps me recover from the effects of being an Adult Child Of An Alcoholic. Share it with someone you know it can help.

30 Minute Healing Negative Childhood Brainwashing Meditation-Release Shame

Love Thyself

https://youtu.be/eLmw9Zromr8

Crash Course On Overcoming Adversity!

Fashion Favorites Friday : 6 Make-Up Artist Must Haves!

 Hello Friends! Welcome to Fashion Favorites Friday! Here are 6 items I am absolutely in love with as a Make-up Artist! There are a few other brands I will share in later posts. These are just some of my Favs! So what are we waiting for....Let's get beautiful!


First is Foundation. I think the coverage and brightness of Even Better blows many foundations away. It is light and airy and flawless. A must have in my beauty bag!

Even Better™ Makeup Broad Spectrum SPF 15

Benefits: Evens Skin Tone, SPF

Skin Types: 2, 3

Wear oil-free, dermatologist-developed Even Better Makeup SPF 15 and something amazing happens: Without any makeup, see improved clarity, a more even skin tone, visibly diminished age spots. For all ethnicities. In just 4 to 6 weeks. Broad spectrum SPF helps protect against future darkening. For continued benefits-even after you take it off-partner with Even Better Clinical Dark Spot Corrector. 

 

 Next is the world famous and favorite Bronzer! I have tried every brand I can find and still I am in love with Cliniques loose bronzer! Let the sun-kissed glow begin!

Blended Face Powder and Brush

Benefits: Evens skin tone, wear alone or over foundation

Skin Types: All

Clinique's signature blended powder. Loose, lightweight texture is right for every type of skin. Sets and perfects makeup, makes pores seem to disappear. Airy, skin-hugging formula delivers a reliably flawless finish. 

 

I don't choose my products by popularity or brand name or even price. As a make-up artist I have discovered you can find amazing products at every price point. This cream eye-shadow is a great example. Want your powder eye-shadow to last all day? Apply this under the powder and whaa Laaa! All day staying power!

e.l.f. Smudge Pot Cream Eyeshadow

 

  This smooth gel formula glides on perfectly. Use it as a long-lasting eyeshadow or eyeliner! Enriched with Vitamin E to nourish and hydrate the delicate eye area.

Again Elf has some fantastic buys! Here is another must have! Want that trendy cat eye for a great price? This one is smooth, easy to handle, and lasts all day. Don't let the price fool ya! It rocks!

 

 

e.l.f. Waterproof Eyeliner Pen

 

• Hold applicator at a slight angle and apply color to the base of the lashes.
• Use a light touch for thin lines or a firmer touch for thicker lines.
• Removal is easy, use a water based makeup remover.
• Best stored with tip down for ultimate color saturation.
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 Did I say I am in love with long, fluttery lashes? Of coarse, it's a make-artist dream!! This seriously will give you that length you have been looking for without the price of extensions or the messy glue of falsies. You do need patience, and smooth pull through the lashes. You may need a eyelash comb as well. You will love what happens when you use this magic stuff!

Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes+

Increase your average lash volume by up to 400%!

 Go wherever your mood takes you with the wildly popular Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes+. Whether you're feeling sexy, sultry, classy, or shy, this revolutionary lash enhancer allows you to flaunt your inner beauty to the world.

 My newest, amazing, and to die for favorite lip color! My daughters friend introduced me to it...and can I just say I have been waiting for this all my make-up life! It won't smear, rub off, or wear off. It won't get on your teeth or kiss away! You have to have this one in your beauty bag!

 LipSense^®
LipSense Liquid Lip Color

The premier product for SeneGence^®, LipSense is a patented, amazing departure from conventional lipsticks and lip colors. LipSense is versatile in that you can mix shades to create a number of effects.

• Unique product is waterproof and does not kiss off, smear off, rub off, or budge off!
• Does not dry out your lips – it works to restore the moisture content
• Color lasts anywhere between 4 and 18 hours

Tune in next Friday for More Fashion Favorites! A pretty face can bring a burst of Joy! Hope your getting your Sparkle on!!!  

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5 Powerful Tools To Jump-Start Your Joy !

I have always been a seeker of finding something enthralling out of life. It started as a child when I would make delicate, homemade trinkets, and sentimental tokens of a undying love, that I would leave on my mothers pillow. I was a child looking for love in a a very broken environment. I was quite a survivor. I owe it to not letting my hope die when things looked  bleak. Now my challenging childhood journey has become a catalyst for some of my splendid, unearthly work. What saved me were powerful tools I found that turned my existence from surviving into living. Some of those tools served me well, others I had to let go as childhood things when I became an adult. The ones worth holding on to, are the ones I want to share with you.I have been mesmerized by a few new tools I have discovered, that not only make Joy possible, but inevitable. Let's get started! No sense in putting off happiness any longer. I am going to share five powerful tools to jump-start your joy!I am going to start with the fastest way to spark Joy instantly!


1. Lift The Hands That Hang Down

Hebrews 12:12 

 

True love requires action. We can speak of love all day long—we can write poems that proclaim it, sing songs that praise it, and preach sermons that encourage it—but until we manifest that love in action, our words are nothing but “sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.”
Christ did not just speak about love; He showed it each day of His life. He did not remove Himself from the crowd. Being amidst the people, Jesus reached out to the one. He rescued the lost.When the Savior stretches out His hands, those He touches are uplifted and become greater, stronger, and better people as a result. If we are His hands, should we not do the same? 1 

What I have discovered is the most instant way to have peace envelope me and Joy captivate my heart is to find somebody in true need, and offer my love and support. Random acts of kindness is an alluring way to start.I remember my feelings of Joy when I sent a delicate, supportive note to somebody who fights the grey storm of blackest depression.I recollect the calmness like a stream rippling down a hill when I just take time to deliver a compassion basket to someone grieving. I won't forget the sense of transcendent peace I feel when I help clean someones home who is having a rough time. Moments like when I have sat and held someone who is in the bitterness of thunderous turmoil and pain will stay with me forever. A smile can brighten anyone's day. You may start small, but start today, because this is a real Joy infuser!

2. The Happiness Jar

Psalms 37:4 

I started this around the end of the year in 2016. It has served me really well already. It is really quite simple, and a no hassle way to JOY. It’s basically like a gratitude list in a Jar. Every time something your grateful for happens, or something encourages your happy factor, you write it down and put it in the jar. Then on New Years empty them out, and see what a Joyful year you had! Or anytime you need a lift. We often remember the negative things that happen in our lives. Now there is a way to focus on the Joy's!


3.Offer Forgiveness You Have Been Denying

Ephesians 4:31

It's time to have a resentment dump- open your journal and write down people and situations that have hurt you. Don't forget to put yourself on the list.This is not a demure exercise.You will be brutally honest. Then make a conscious effort to work on letting go of bitterness and anger.Your aim is not to brood. I have found if I pray and ask God to help me see the individual as He sees them, even in their weaknesses, my heart softens. Sometimes I have to pray to ask God to help me forgive.Just the desire to forgive is a very good start. The reminder here is that forgiveness is for you, not necessarily for the one who offended you. You are allowing Christ to carry the burden so you don't have to.Some atrocious things in life seem unforgivable, but releasing them to the One who can carry the burden for us, will bring us great lagniappe of peace and Joy.The hurts of my childhood and then other scaring events in my life held me prisoner too long.I am too tired to carry this load. I want to have Joy, and I am willing to forgive myself and others to let that light shine rapturously in.


4. Letting Go Of Fear

Psalm 56

One of the most satisfying ways I have found to respond to my fears and  difficulties is to put my faith in God and Trust Him. That includes support behaviors like praying and reading scriptures on the subject of conquering ineffable fear.The Lord provided a ripple of scriptures, one spreading like waves into many others. There are enough scriptures to support a fearful person every single day of the year. It's time to say No More Fear!In the story of Psalm 56. David has been seized by the Philistines and he starts to become afraid, but instead he sets his vision on his Lord and Savior in his midst. He praises God and his word to him:
 “Fear not!” He puts his trust in the Lord…
 "When I am afraid,
  I will trust in you.
  In God, whose word I praise,
  In God I trust; I will not be afraid.
  What can mortal man do to me?"

 What fear is trying to take a hold of you right now? What threat or trouble are you facing?
Watch and pray with David, “When I am afraid of _________, I will trust in you, O Lord.”
In my upcoming blog posts I will show you how to use Scripture, prayers, and your heart like this, to overcome anxiety and fear. Let me help you walk through your fears and into the loving arms of Christ. You can learn to live with peace and power! You can learn to experience Joy!



5. Progress Not Perfection

Philippians 4:13

We all know the scripture that states ^{Matthew 5:48 "}Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." This can seem a monumental task. We can get so caught up and hung up on these words that, we loose sight of the journey, lessons, and progress we have made. Being a perfectionist has proven time and time again to be destructive and even detrimental when it cripples progression or motivation. We can get so stuck wanting to do things perfect, or wanting to appear perfect, that we forget how to be perfectly human, perfectly real, perfectly weak. God gave us our weakness so we would turn to him and not boast of our own strength. He gave us weaknesses as challenges to make us stronger. The most perfect one can be, is when one is honest about how weak we really are. Once we admit defeat, once we accept Gods help, we become perfect in our unity with Him. So stop wearing guilt like a scarlet letter, let go of beating yourself up. It's time to lean on a Higher Power. You aren't in this game of life left to your own weak devices. You can actually do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Set goals; check them off, see the progression, but I forbid you to beat yourself up for what you lack. You have a Savior, use His atonement to lift you, and I can promise you will be filled with exhilarating Joy. 

                              
      Love, Light,& Joy,                                       
                           

  The Joyful Life

 Designer

  Life Coach 

   Tiffany King 

     TheEmpoweringGift@gmail.com  

                                             

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